Oct 19, 2008


What do you do when you realize that you had suddenly dissolved into the earth and need to resurrect yourself without anybody's help... when all you wanted was to be with someone at a place and there suddenly is no place... what do you do when you dream about being there and wake up thinking that you gotta book tickets to this place... what do you do when you don't feel like not talking to anyone... not even on this blog?


Anonymous said...

Let me know if you find the answers...been searching for them all for ages now! :( Hope you feel better soon!

Anonymous said...

You look 2 years into the future and you reflect over what exactly you must do so that you're not asking yourself those questions in 2 years' time.
And then, because the situation is causing you so much agony, you gather up all your courage and work towards your goal, pushing the frustrations away from your thoughts and instead attempting to be patient but diligent.
You also realise that you're turning 30 in a few years, and that you have to start being a complete adult. That sometimes, a few dreams must be compromised upon today so that you can pursue them more actively tomorrow, while being safe and secure.

Rambunctious WhipperSnapper said...

I don't know about you, but in situations like these, I talk to a very close friend of mine. A certain Mr Jack Daniels.

Dolly Koshy said...

When you feel like how u mentioned, just keep in mind it is a passing phase. Also, keep in mind that if you know to motivate yourself everything that happens turns out to be for the best in the long run.

Read some motivating books (non fiction). When I am very down and depressed, I read some english thrillers. In most of such novels the hero loses everything, will be on the run from the law and the antilaw, will lose confidence and undergo depression and in the end will gain back everything out of sheer determination. Try reading Bourne Identity.

The movie version of such novels will not help.

I am not a music person. I have heard from many of my friends that when they are down they listen to music to feel better. I have listened to many of the songs that they mention especially rock. What I feel is, these songs unlike the thriller novels make you feel good for the time being and again drift you back into ur depressed state. Such songs are good only when you are in love and not in a depressed state.

Kris Bass said...

@ Myheadtrip: I have decided to do things that will bring some pleasure. I watched a movie for example.

@ Unsungpsalm: That's a lot of pondering into the future. I'm not too sure about being able to execute.

@ Ramby: I wish I could have that kind of money and a friend to share my burdens with.

@ Dolly: Well, thrillers? I'm watching some old movies. Makes me happy.

Firebolt said...

I talk to a close friend in such cases. Although most commonly, it is me on the receiving end.

I hope you sort your stuff out, buddy.

And when you find time, check out my blog cause I've tagged you. BTW, did I mention that I cross posted the Tehelka special on my blog the last time?

Anonymous said...

Have been there. At times I still go there. And its not pretty at all...hang on, is all I can say. I dont know if time will heal, and I dont know whether this will pass or not, but I do know that there will be many moments like this, possibly more painful and confusing, and I also know that, it will make you stronger than before..

Take care..


Raz said...

ok i jus dont ve an answer to any of ur other questions bt if i feel like not talking to anyone even my blog - then i know that there is something terribly terribly wrong with me :D

Anonymous said...

Listen to some good numbers viz Spies (Coldplay), The Man who sold the World (Nirvana), Us and them (Floyd), Freelove (Depeche Mode)....

I guess music (as those above) helps introspect!

This too shall pass Kris!

Cheers n take care

Rated R

Anonymous said...

Go out and physically do something nice for someone else... anything will do...donate your time as a volunteer or your attention atleast to those less fortunate that you. Giving helps me realise that I am not alone in any misery. It also helps me become less self absorbed and more able to see my way out of the situation. It clears my head and heart.

As for the rest, chocolate anything always helps.

If you dont want to speak or write, dont, just dont.

A Well Wisher in NYC

Prash said...

You eat a chocolate ice-cream and listen to a nice music and then sleep...after a sleep-over things change !

Kris Bass said...

@ Firebolt: Look, it has not worked in my case. Look, the closest friend that I have is Vinokur. He's been the only one there for me really. But I feel so remorseful, so self-loathed that I sometimes feel I should not put a friend through the misery.

@ -childwhoman-: It's cool to say what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. But reality is hard.

@ Ratd R: Nope. I wanted to do something that would make me happy. Introspection doesn't work for me.

@ AWWiNYC: I did go out and do something physically nice. But not something like help a person. I did enjoy myself though which is exactly what I was preventing myself from doing. Because of all the 'exams coming up, only studies now' ideas!

@ Prash: It's not a single day! It's an entire two weeks now. Thankfully, I have gotten out of the worst and am feeling now. I really can't afford ice-creams and stuff you know. Besides, I never found ice-creams tasty enough.